The “good contact” for children

“Non si vede bene che con il cuore: l’essenziale è invisibile agli occhi!” A. De Saint Exupery

The “good contact”,  seen as soft gestures and  cuddling are  an essential need that accompany  all of us  throughout our  entire lifetime

There is however  a temporal window, in childhood, in which the importance of this need is even stronger.

In this period  a child’s brain is extremely pliable, meaning that it is capable of great  structural changes according to the experiences it encounters. This is the reason why  an embrace of a few seconds is capable of arousing in our children’s brain  a series of chemical reactions that lead to e waterfall of beneficial effects, it arouses  a feeling  of wellbeing and security, decreases  anxiety, strengthens immune defences, increases faith in others  and contributes to the development of self esteem.

Cuddling and  playing  are therefore fundamental  for the nourishment  and  support of the  emotional relationship  with our children. The children themselves often ask us to recharge their “empty emotional reservoir”, especially after a long day away  from home and from mom and dad, with the traditional image identified  by the Pedagogist and pedagogical  trainer  doctor Iaccarino. 

It can sometimes happen that a child is nervous, angry and  frustrated   and often,  hidden in what we usually call  children’s tantrums,  is a subtle request  for attention and affection, the need for a  recharge  of  the famous reservoir.

What are therefore the small gestures  that an adult  can make  to fill the “ tank” with love and affection ?

One winning strategy  is that of dedicating the first 10-15 minutes to your child as soon as you get home after a day out, sit together on the sofa, cuddle a little,  read a book or  play a game in a relaxed atmosphere,   inside a defined time lapse.

Another winning strategy is that  of involving your child  in the household chores, asking him to help you with the house or with the cooking so that he will feel involved  and actively  participating  in the care of the house. There  hints are actually  simple  and generic  input on which a parent can meditate and act; parents  will then, according  to their child’s age and on his/her  own personality  and personal beliefs,  work out  and adapt our suggestions  to their personal family routine.

We are therefore  glad to share an interesting  chart, made by Percorsi Formativi 0-6 , that, referring to the ideal  emotional reservoir, traces the fundamental ingredients  to fill the “tank”” or “reservoir” whilst at the same time focusing  on the factors that contribute, on the other hand, to the emptying of the emotional reservoir.